In the past I often questioned where I was in life because things weren’t going according to the way I envisioned . I had personal and professional goals that I wanted to accomplish by a certain time. When those goals didn’t happen, I often had thoughts like…  Why am I not in my ideal position by now? I should be making a certain amount of money. Am I ever going to get where I want to be?  Why haven’t I met my soulmate? I should have this, I should have that, or I should be further in life by now. I realized that life doesn’t always work exactly the way we plan it.  That doesn’t mean you’re not going to get what you need or want in life, it just may not happen at the time you intended it to.

The more I spoke to people about this and watched many motivational videos I gathered that most people struggle with this at some point in their lives. When I was an Admissions Counselor, I spoke to many students in their 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s about their goals and this topic always seemed to  surface. If you have ever felt behind in life or are currently feeling like this, you are not alone.

If this something that you battle with on a daily basis, you have to get a handle on it before your emotions keep you behind in  life.

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Here are two conscious choices you have to keep in mind every single day!

1.     Admire your detours:

Sometimes you don’t get to your destination at the time you thought you would because you needed to take a little detour. Detours are not always bad and getting there sooner is not always better. You have to trust that every decision that you make is the best choice at that time and you need to trust every experience teaches  you something that you need to know right now.

2.     Stop comparing yourself to others.

Don’t compare yourself to others because it will slow down your personal growth. When you stop comparing you will have less anxiety and hopelessness. Here are three tips to help you stop comparing yourself to others.

1.      Be grateful for what you have and where you are in life right now.  Every few days write in a journal about what you appreciate in your life and the success you made throughout the week.
2.      Detox from social media.It’s easy to get caught up comparing yourself to someone’s life through seeing pictures on social media platforms. It’s good to take a break or limit yourself each day from social media outlets from negative comparative thinking
3.      Be patient and trust the timing of your life. It’s so easy for us to become impatient when things are not going the way we want them to. Remember to just stay positive and make the necessary steps to get what you want out of life. Your hard work will pay off, but believing in yourself is the key to make your dreams a reality.

I want to hear from you!

Have you ever felt behind in life, what are some tips to get you out of your funk?

What are your thoughts on this topic? 

Comments and tips are welcomed!

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Now let’s talk fashion!

This is one of my favorite looks because it’s in season all year around.

This black blazer from Express is a lifesaver, I often pair it up with my pencil skirt from ANGL and my go to black leggings. Could you believe I brought these shoes 10 years ago and they are still in style!

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