Have you eaten today? I ask before you start reading because the topic of work/life balance is an elusive one. Every person is looking, longing, and languishing over this mysterious balance hidden somewhere out there in the land of perfection. But it boils down to very pragmatic activities.
First, let’s admit one thing. We love to work. Well, scratch that, we love to accomplish things and will work really hard to get those things done. Am I right? Sometimes we lose sleep over a certain task or we skip meals, rush through the drive-thru, and sacrifice good nutrition for convenience. There are many pitfalls for us hard-working women feeling the need to DO IT ALL. Besides work and being really good at what you do, there’s the other things that need to get done such as. working out, house-work, and that extra curricular activity of looking fine and fashionable. It can feel like a part time job all on its own.
So, how do we find balance before coming to our wits end? How do we walk the fine line of work-life balance so we can show up with the glowing results of all this hard work.? That’s the intention, right?
In other words, why are we always go, go, go? There are three big reasons why. One: To show the results. It’s the “Look at what I can do” kind of thing. Don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing more fun than getting in shape, finding the right swim suit, and feeling great during that day at the beach. “Weeeee look at me!” Or putting in long hours to complete a project at work and gaining the accolades that comes with it.
Then, there’s number two: The “no other choice” type of thing. If I don’t do it ALL, there must be something wrong with me! There’s nothing better than when you finally reach that moment when you know, you don’t HAVE to do it all. We get to pick and choose.
Lastly, there’s the third: I work hard because I do what I love. I love doing and seeing what I’ve done. I beam with gratitude and fulfillment. It makes me happy. So if I can do even more, for even more people, maybe I will be even more happy. So taking on just a bit too much sometimes can throw even the best intentions out of balance.
Here are five solutions to staying in check, doing what you love, what you have to do, or what you are just programmed to get done.
All of these solutions are for the girl who is ready to STOP the madness BEFORE the breaking point of despair when life feels like it could all come tumbling down.
I’ve been teaching self-care and the art of relaxation for over fifteen years and these suggestions are sure to make an impact when you truly decide to draw the line and take better care of your well being.
There’s the key to balance. Number five will help support one, two, three and four. Clarity is key. Ease can be easy. Enjoying the things in life you love and loving the work you’re doing by identifying why you’re doing it…. It all smoothes out with long rhythmic breaths.
When you’re at ease in your own skin, sleep well, and know what it is that brings you joy and feeling accomplished and having the space you’re in reflect that part of you… this is walking the line of balance. And deep down inside you may even say, “Weeeeeeee look at me!”
Reach out to me for advice in achieving your level of happiness in work life balance or to just take the very first step to get started at firstname.lastname@example.org . Ask about the five part course R.E.L.A.X. where we will learn.
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